Explore the Power of Meditation and Mindfulness in Your Divorce
Divorce is one of life’s most stressful events, second only to the death of a spouse. Even if the split is amicable, you’re likely grappling with a range of powerful emotions, from sadness to guilt to fear. The stress of shouldering these emotions while adjusting to the practical realities of divorce–moving to a new home, living off a downsized budget, seeing less of your children, living alone–can be tremendous. You need to find healthy ways to cope.
Meditation and mindfulness are two wonderful techniques for managing the stress of divorce and emotional overwhelm. These ancient Eastern practices have become extremely popular in Western culture in recent years–and for good reason! Not only is there countless anecdotal evidence of mediation and mindfulness’s positive impact on well-being, but a growing body of clinical studies shows that these techniques can reduce anxiety, stress, depression, and fear, among other things.
This week, my guest, Joree Rose, is here to show you how meditation and mindfulness techniques can help you manage divorce-related stress, find greater peace, and act (instead of react) to challenging situations.
Joree is a licensed marriage and family therapist, mindfulness and mediation teacher, author, and speaker who leads mindfulness retreats worldwide. She’s helped thousands of people to live happier and more fulfilling lives by guiding them to shed unhealthy habits, decrease stress and anxiety, and live with greater awareness and compassion. She’s also the host of the podcast, Journey Forward with Joree Rose, and she’s written two mindfulness books: Squirmy Learns to be Mindful and Mindfulness: It’s Elementary.
What are Meditation and Mindfulness?
As you’re probably well-aware, your mind is always on the move, leaping from one thought to another. This is especially true in stressful times such as divorce. One minute, you’re thinking about how you’re going to pay the bills, the next, you’re wondering if your kids are getting enough sleep at your ex’s or whether you should schedule another meeting with your divorce lawyer. These thoughts can circle around and around in your head, heightening worry and anxiety.
Mediation is a set of techniques intended to quiet the mind and attain a heightened level of awareness different from your normal conscious state. When meditating, the point isn’t to suppress swirling thoughts or feelings, but to acknowledge and accept their presence without judgment. Eventually, your mind will grow more still and you’ll become more attuned to your inner self. With practice, you’ll be able to find internal peace with your thoughts and feelings even when outwardly surrounded by chaos.
Mindfulness is a type of meditation in which you strive to become fully present in the moment you’re experiencing. “It’s to be aware of what’s arising in your body, in your mind, in your emotions, and have the ability to pause,” says Joree. Rather than thinking about what that moment will mean in the future or how it relates to the past, you simply experience the moment as it is, with complete acceptance and without judgment.
How Meditation and Mindfulness Can Help You
Over the next seven posts, Joree Rose is going to help you gain a deeper understanding of meditation and mindfulness and share some techniques that’ll allow you to weather the stress you’ll encounter on your divorce journey. For example, she’s going to talk about how to use these techniques to:
- ride out challenging feelings associated with divorce
- react to the events of your divorce proactively rather than reactively
- avoid taking the words, actions, and emotions of others personally
- understand the root cause of triggering emotions
She’ll also help you understand what’s going on in the brain when you use meditation and mindfulness techniques and give you realistic, concrete advice for the logistical challenge of incorporating these practices into your life on a regular basis. Even if your day is jam-packed, you’ll always be able to find an oasis of inner calm.
Joree herself is a divorce veteran who used these techniques when she separated from her husband five years ago. She says that without a mindfulness practice, she would have struggled so much more. Even she’d sought the divorce, splitting up wasn’t easy: she’d had been with her ex-husband for over 23 years and had two children with him.
Meditation and mindfulness can not only help you find greater peace with your divorce, but allow you to stay calm in challenging situations and give a measured, reasonable response. You may even find yourself able to have healthier and more productive conversations with your ex!
So, if this sounds good to you, please tune in again for this blog series. And if you’re considering divorce but would like to try an approach that might mean a brighter future, call my team to schedule a confidential consultation.