3 Tips for Successful Co-parenting During the Covid-19 Pandemic

 

Covid-19 has struck our nation, changing the way we live our daily lives. If you are separated or divorced, you know how difficult co-parenting can be. During the Covid-19 coronavirus pandemic, social distancing can make co-parenting especially challenging.  

Parents who have been co-parenting effectively will need to increase their level of communication in order to minimize the risk of themselves and their children contracting the Covid-19 Coronavirus. Parents who have had more tension or difficulty may really struggle during this time.

To make things harder, courts are closed for all but emergencies — and what feels like an emergency to you, probably won’t qualify as an emergency to a court. There are a few ways you can be sure that you are co-parenting successfully during the coronavirus scare.

1. Over Communicate 

This is the time to over-communicate about your children and your plans. Frequently, one parent feels that the other parent’s questions about where they’re going with the children, what they’re doing, with whom they’re spending time with, might normally feel intrusive and controlling. 

During this unparalleled time, these questions are appropriate. Having a very tight and coordinated co-parenting plan will make the whole family safer. If overcommunication is difficult, or even impossible, there are 2 options that can help.

There’s an app for that
Several companies offer co-parenting communication apps for parents that have trouble communicating effectively. Some even have the capacity to correct your tone. Our Family Wizard and Two Houses are two such examples of those apps.

Mediation
Mediation is a fully-facilitated conversation guided by a neutral third-party that will help you reach a solution that works for both parents, but most importantly, the children. 

Miller Law Group often helps people work out co-parenting problems through mediation and continues to do so throughout the coronavirus outbreak by video-conferencing.

2. Maintain Flexibility

covid-19 co-parentingRemember, during this health-crisis, everyone is in the same boat. This could mean losing a job, working from home, homeschooling and managing childcare all at the same time. What was reasonable at another time, is not reasonable now. And conversely, what was not reasonable at another time, maybe totally appropriate now.

Now it might make sense to substitute a video call for an in-person visit. Maybe it makes sense to keep the children in one parent’s home and have the other parent visit there. Or maybe it makes sense to move in together for a period of time. Don’t worry about setting a precedent about not visiting or missing time. These are difficult and unusual times.

3. Prepare for the Long-term and Proceed with Caution

Although this time is difficult and tensions are running high, this will pass. This means that the behavior you demonstrate now will either enhance or detract from your future co-parenting relationship or any pending court case – or both. 

Your behavior now may well have a huge impact on the outcome of a pending divorce or custody case. If a judge feels you put your children at risk by taking them to public gatherings, that might reflect badly on your parenting skills in the future.

If you have any questions about co-parenting during the Covid-19 Coronavirus Pandemic, call us to set up a video consultation. 914-340-3161. Be Safe.