The Hard Lessons of 2018

As the end of the year rolls around and the calendar gets thin, it’s time to reflect on the lessons learned this year. Many of us end the year without a momentous rush of pride at our accomplishments. There’s no spiking the ball, no touchdown dance. Instead, we may have to take some time to reflect to understand exactly where we are in the waning days of 2018, and prepare for a smarter, happier 2019.

Get Some Distance

It can be hard to take a step back from a puzzle you’re trying to solve. We’re conditioned to think we should stay in our seats until we’ve figured out our problems. But in fact, sometimes taking a break is exactly what you need for great ideas to bubble to the surface. Business leaders today recognize the importance of taking breaks to let the mind wander. It’s in these wanderings that they happen upon some of the best solutions. The same is true for the emotional brain. Allowing for—or even scheduling—“down time” away from lists and legal paperwork can give your mind the time it needs to better focus when you need it to. You may even stumble across a new perspective that changes your outlook.

Smart Isn’t Always Hard

Our culture loves the story of the early-riser, the last athlete at practice, the fighter who goes the extra mile. But what if that isn’t the only way? Sometimes the right answer feels…easy. Keep in mind Occam’s razor—the simple solution is often the correct one.

Networks Aren’t Everything, They’re the Only Thing

Dissolving a marriage can be emotionally taxing. Friends, family, support groups and even co-workers can provide the extra distraction, feedback, fun and emotional support that is absolutely critical at this time.

Things Change—Always

One universal truth is that things change. So if you aren’t comfortable with where you are, it may just be a case of holding yourself through it and waiting until the weather shifts.

Time Heals

It’s a cliché, but it’s true. Time not only dampens the acute first shock of pain. It also brings new distractions into your life, gives you breathing room and helps with emotional recovery.

So we tip the hat to 2018 and raise a glass to 2019. Here’s to new perspectives, new friendships and new happiness in 2019!

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